I don't really participate in social networking. I've always thought having a website with a valid email address was social enough for me. I don't have a MySpace page. I get grief about it all the time. One of my friends is so in love with MySpace, she refuses to acknowledge any stalker story is true, or that most user's pages could put you in a coma from the colour/image clashes. I call them MySores. She defends the service like it's her abusive husband. ::sigh::
I cannot bring myself to get a page on MySpace. I can't.
Lately, however, I've been working on a project that may require a social networking application as its base. I had to join somewhere, to have a look around. I decided to try Gather.com. A few minutes, and I do mean a few minutes, after I signed up, I got my first 'connection' request. Over the next few days, I got more. They weren't from anyone I knew. They were random people asking me to add them to my friends connections.
I wrote my MySpace friend and asked her what the deal was. Why would these strangers want me to list them as a friend? She said, she didn't know anything about Gather. I asked her why people do that on MySpace. She didn't reply.
I've been on Gather for about a month now. The people are strange. If you're on Gather, you either 1. Think I'm crazy to say that, or 2. Know exactly what I mean. If you aren't on Gather, I'll try to explain it as best I can.
Have you ever seen the movie, The Steppford Wives?
That's the best place I know to start. Everyone - everyone - is super, happy, friendly. Everything that anyone writes, uploads, thinks, is ...nice.
"Nice image!"
"Nice essay!"
"Nice icon!"
If you do a Google site search for the word 'nice' on Gather you'll get over half a million hits for the word 'nice' - that's not counting how many times it appears on each page. It can appear 10-20 times on the same page. Everyone telling someone how 'nice' their new post is. No one on Gather can do wrong. Images, almost always have a 10 rating.
It may be, Gather's unspoken motto is 'If you don't have anything nice to say, keep your mouth shut,' or it could be that Gather is a cult. I was welcomed and friended within minutes. I was told how nice my avatar is. I was told how nice my writing is. My avatar was nothing special. I wrote something off the top of my head, just to see how their posting application worked.
I am loved there. I am nice and everything I do is nice. Yesterday, I commented on how nice someone else's writing was... I tried to think of another word, but only the word 'nice' came to mind. It was frightening.
(is it just me, or does it seem like I'm ending almost every sentence with a preposition?)
One explanation for the niceness, could be a points system Gather has in place. I don't understand it. I have points. I think I can trade them for discounts, but I haven't looked into it. If people are given points for friends and writing, that could explain the friendliness. If they get points for every time they comment on something... well, eventually you run out of adjectives. Maybe, it's simpler for them to stick with 'nice', than try a thesaurus?
Yesterday, I received 17 notices from Gather users - comments, mostly. Seventeen notices on a site I've been on for a little over a month and know only one person. Someone I asked to join, because the Steppfords were creeping me out. Join us. Join us. ::shudder::